{"id":767,"date":"2026-06-24T00:44:18","date_gmt":"2026-06-24T00:44:18","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lighteningweightloss.com\/relationships\/?p=767"},"modified":"2026-06-24T00:44:18","modified_gmt":"2026-06-24T00:44:18","slug":"the-best-relationship-advice-that-everyone-needs-to-hear-from-the-worlds-1-love-researchers","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lighteningweightloss.com\/relationships\/?p=767","title":{"rendered":"The Best Relationship Advice That Everyone Needs to Hear (From the World\u2019s #1 Love Researchers)"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" width=\"480\" height=\"270\" src=\"\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/sNzswsEIJ-E\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p>Today\u2019s episode is one of the most eye-opening conversations about marriage, love, and relationships you will ever hear. <\/p>\n<p>Whether you&#8217;re married, dating, single, divorced, or in a long term relationship, get ready for the gift of the Gottmans. <\/p>\n<p>Dr. John and Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman are the world\u2019s leading relationship researchers. For over 50 years, they have studied thousands of couples, published hundreds of research papers, written 52 books, and changed the way the world understands love. <\/p>\n<p>And what they are sharing today is simple but life-changing:<br \/>\nIt\u2019s not whether you have conflict that determines if your relationship lasts. <\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s how you handle it. <\/p>\n<p>Today you are going to learn:<br \/>\n-How the first 3 minutes of a fight can predict divorce<br \/>\n-The 4 most common behaviors in every relationship that drive people apart<br \/>\n-3 simple questions for your next date night that create real connection<br \/>\n-The #1 predictor that a marriage will last (it\u2019s not chemistry or sex)<br \/>\n-One 10-minute Sunday habit that makes you both feel like you\u2019re on the same team<br \/>\n-\u201cTurning away\u201d vs. \u201cturning against\u201d &#8211; the tiny moments that make your partner feel loved\u2026 or alone<\/p>\n<p>If you\u2019re feeling like you and your partner have become roommates who barely see each other, you\u2019re not alone. Nobody taught you how to do this. And even if you had great role models, marriage comes with challenges no one can fully prepare you for.<\/p>\n<p>So let this episode be your wake-up call \u2013 and the way back to each other.<\/p>\n<p>For more resources related to today\u2019s episode, click here for the podcast episode page: <\/p>\n<blockquote class=\"wp-embedded-content\" data-secret=\"82cEqAr6uX\"><p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.melrobbins.com\/episode\/episode-405\/\">The #1 Relationship Researchers in the World: 50 Years of Marriage &#038; Love Advice in One Conversation<\/a><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" class=\"wp-embedded-content\" sandbox=\"allow-scripts\" security=\"restricted\" style=\"position: absolute; visibility: hidden;\" title=\"\u201cThe #1 Relationship Researchers in the World: 50 Years of Marriage &amp; Love Advice in One Conversation\u201d \u2014 Mel Robbins\" src=\"https:\/\/www.melrobbins.com\/episode\/episode-405\/embed\/#?secret=6Fuejihdud#?secret=82cEqAr6uX\" data-secret=\"82cEqAr6uX\" width=\"500\" height=\"282\" frameborder=\"0\" marginwidth=\"0\" marginheight=\"0\" scrolling=\"no\"><\/iframe> <\/p>\n<p>Follow The Mel Robbins Podcast on Instagram: https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/themelrobbinspodcast <\/p>\n<p>I\u2019m just your friend. I am not a licensed therapist, and this podcast is NOT intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional. Got it? Good. I\u2019ll see you in the next episode. <\/p>\n<p>In this episode:<br \/>\n00:00 Introduction<br \/>\n04:20 How to Stop Fighting With Your Partner<br \/>\n09:47 Relationship Advice Backed by 50 Years of Research<br \/>\n15:22 What Healthy Couples Do Differently During Arguments<br \/>\n23:33 The Right Way to Communicate During a Fight<br \/>\n28:28 How to Build Emotional Intimacy With Your Partner<br \/>\n36:50 The 4 Toxic Relationship Habits That Predict Divorce<br \/>\n40:45 What Emotional Flooding Is and Why It Takes Over<br \/>\n49:13 How to Deal With A Partner Belittling You In A Fight<br \/>\n58:53 What To Do If Your Partner Always Gets Defensive During Fights<br \/>\n1:03:51 How to Talk About Losing Physical Attraction<br \/>\n1:05:59 Why Stonewalling Is So Damaging in Relationships<br \/>\n1:15:10 The #1 Predictor of A Healthy Relationship <\/p>\n<p>\u2014<br \/>\nFollow Mel:<br \/>\nInstagram: https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/melrobbins\/<br \/>\nTikTok: http:\/\/tiktok.com\/@melrobbins<br \/>\nFacebook: https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/melrobbins<br \/>\nLinkedIn: https:\/\/www.linkedin.com\/in\/melrobbins<br \/>\nWebsite: http:\/\/melrobbins.com\u200b<br \/>\n\u2014<br \/>\nSign up for Mel\u2019s newsletter: https:\/\/melrob.co\/sign-up-newsletter<br \/>\nA note from Mel to you, twice a week, sharing simple, practical ways to build the life you want.<br \/>\n\u2014<br \/>\nSubscribe to Mel\u2019s channel here: https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/melrobbins\u200b?sub_confirmation=1<br \/>\n\u2014<br \/>\nListen to The Mel Robbins Podcast \ud83c\udfa7 New episodes drop every Monday &amp; Thursday!<br \/>\nhttps:\/\/melrob.co\/spotify<br \/>\nhttps:\/\/melrob.co\/applepodcasts<br \/>\nhttps:\/\/melrob.co\/amazonmusic<br \/>\n\u2014<br \/>\nLooking for Mel\u2019s books on Amazon? Find them here:<\/p>\n<p>The Let Them Theory: https:\/\/amzn.to\/3IQ21Oe<br \/>\nThe Let Them Theory Audiobook: https:\/\/amzn.to\/413SObp<br \/>\nThe High 5 Habit: https:\/\/amzn.to\/3fMvfPQ<br \/>\nThe 5 Second Rule: https:\/\/amzn.to\/4l54fah<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Today\u2019s episode is one of the most eye-opening conversations about marriage, love, and relationships you will ever hear. 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