{"id":813,"date":"2026-07-22T07:00:22","date_gmt":"2026-07-22T07:00:22","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lighteningweightloss.com\/relationships\/?p=813"},"modified":"2026-07-22T07:00:22","modified_gmt":"2026-07-22T07:00:22","slug":"inside-the-marriage-wars","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lighteningweightloss.com\/relationships\/?p=813","title":{"rendered":"Inside the Marriage Wars"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" width=\"480\" height=\"270\" src=\"\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/m4F2ozwvybw\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p>If you asked someone in the &#8217;80s if the director of When Harry Met Sally would fight the actor who played the Terminator over legalizing marriage for same-sex couples, they would probably have said \u2026 probably not! And yet, in 2012, I found myself heading to Rob Reiner\u2019s house to lend a hand with a lawsuit that would, in no small part, determine the future of same-sex marriage.<\/p>\n<p>Thanks to everyone who provided voices for this video:<\/p>\n<p>Sam Pirie as the voice of King James<br \/>\n&#8211; Watch Sam\u2019s videos: https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/@TheSamp<\/p>\n<p>Dr. Lee Arnott as the voice of W.R. Greg<br \/>\n&#8211; Watch Lee\u2019s Molly House video: https:\/\/youtu.be\/DpkcwBK15bc<br \/>\n&#8211; Check out his podcast with Dave Moor: https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/@PodcastGaze<br \/>\n&#8211; And also here: https:\/\/podcasts.apple.com\/sk\/podcast\/the-problematic-gaze\/id1750288007 <\/p>\n<p>Dave White and Alonso Duralde as the letter to ONE Magazine<br \/>\n&#8211; Listen to their podcast Linoleum Knife: https:\/\/linoleumknife.libsyn.com\/ <\/p>\n<p>Sonari Glinton as the voice of court rulings<br \/>\n&#8211; Find his work: https:\/\/www.sonariglinton.com\/ <\/p>\n<p>Huge thanks to Emma for editing this video! Check out her channel, Media Processing: https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/@mediaprocessingchannel<\/p>\n<p>Check out Del &amp; Phyl&#8217;s full interview on the Making Gay History podcast: https:\/\/makinggayhistory.org\/podcast\/phyllis-lyon-del-martin\/<\/p>\n<p>Join me on Patreon for hours of bonus videos: https:\/\/www.patreon.com\/c\/mattbaume<br \/>\nAnd give a Patreon gift membership: https:\/\/www.patreon.com\/mattbaume\/gift<\/p>\n<p>Read my book Defining Marriage, full of personal stories from the fight for marriage: http:\/\/definingmarriage.com\/<\/p>\n<p>00:00:00 &#8211; Introduction<br \/>\n00:03:02 &#8211; Getting creative in the distant past<br \/>\n00:13:38 &#8211; Brave early organizers<br \/>\n00:30:29 &#8211; Surprising 70s television<br \/>\n00:34:55 &#8211; Fighting back in the 80s<br \/>\n00:42:52 &#8211; Risky moves in the 90s<br \/>\n00:49:03 &#8211; Sitcoms versus same-sex marriage<br \/>\n01:07:22 &#8211; Salvaging the California campaign<br \/>\n01:24:11 &#8211; Outlaw weddings in San Francisco<br \/>\n01:44:11 &#8211; Standing up to Schwarzenegger &amp; the Republicans<br \/>\n01:57:08 &#8211; Proposition 8<br \/>\n02:38:27 &#8211; Stonewall 2.0<br \/>\n02:48:15 &#8211; AFER emerges &amp; activist infighting<br \/>\n03:15:23 &#8211; Our day in court<br \/>\n03:35:40 &#8211; Going to Broadway<br \/>\n04:12:56 &#8211; An impossible election challenge in 2012<br \/>\n04:28:24 &#8211; Supreme Court showdown<br \/>\n04:41:40 &#8211; The day of decision<br \/>\n04:47:13 &#8211; More couples step up<br \/>\n05:01:47 &#8211; What happens now?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>If you asked someone in the &#8217;80s if the director of When Harry Met Sally would fight the actor who [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":0,"featured_media":814,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-813","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v17.6 - 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